I am safe, I am trusting on our great land. In a life I walked a path that was my own. I saw love lost and lost love. I thread the paths of my ancestors, where tears were shed and … Continue reading
‘Healing’……what does that word mean to you?
Is it something that requires a bone to be set by doctors, an open wound that needs dressing or just a day in bed to recover from the flu. These all hold a variation of healing that can be treated by modern day medicine and the many skilled and wonderful medical practitioners that we have in society today.
What if your healing requires something that lies within you, wounds that have cut so deep that the internal scars are visible only to you, they leave pain that is only felt by you and that ‘fear’ is a daily reality that can only be dealt with by you.
I believe we have all experienced this, becoming lost in a fog of despair, that feeling of being alone in a crowded room, where all the voices just become noise and you cant block them out. I have struggled at times with these feelings and emotions and I have come out the other side, stronger then I ever thought possible.
My healing began down the route most people take, the doctors office. Sitting in the waiting room surrounded by people that were coughing, pale in colour and obviously sick, then it hit me, these people were really sick!
I was a bit down but in perfect health, which to be honest sitting amongst these people made me feel very much the hypocrite. That was when I began to dread the conversation that lay ahead and how exactly I was going to explain myself. Where the hell was I even going to start?
I feel I need to be honest writing this and tell you truthfully what occurred. I walked into my doctors office and she had only said the words ‘Take a seat.’ and I broke down, I don’t mean dabbing away a tear or two I mean I cried harder then I ever remember, torrents of tears that left me unable to utter a single word, I couldn’t breathe I gasped for air and tried desperately to gain my composure in front of this concerned looking lady. Without a sound she brought me a glass of water and said ‘ Its ok, everything will be fine.’ The relief! Someone saw that I just needed to release, to cry to just completely let myself show. I don’t actually remember the entire conversation but I do remember the mind numbing headache I had leaving that evening. I genuinely left that day with a sense of ‘Hey girl, you started this now bloody finish it.’, and I did.
I took my doctor’s advice and sought a confident to entrust with my feelings, issues I really didn’t know were bothering me but turned out to be roots of things that had grown out of my control.
I avoided medication because it really wasn’t something I wanted to do, my doctor was supportive of me making this choice, not all are but she took the time to get to know me and knew that shunning meds was the right choice for me. I have been particularly lucky in having wonderful partner that supports and loves me without question and two friends that I trust with my life.
Amongst one conversation I had with my confident she gave me a piece of advice that has stuck with me since, ‘You need to learn to quieten your mind.’ and that was my eureka moment. I took up yoga and fell in love with the peace it brought to me.
This time when I was in a crowded room I did not feel alone, I felt very much a part of it. I was and am fortunate to have wonderful yoga teachers and people that take part in this wonderful practice.
I pulled out all my books and beloved crystals that had been packed away many years ago and once again found my love of healing, meditation and spirit. I have even began taking courses (and gained certification) to support my love and practice of healing and spirituality, I am busy now in the best way possible.
It has taken me some time to once again find myself and it was because I asked for help. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to feel vulnerable and do not feel you are the only one goes through this, you are never alone.
What I have learned is this, don’t consider your life to exist inside a box, to be kicked around when others may feel you are in their way or shelved when they don’t need you. Why should your existence depend on others happiness? You are beautiful, I really mean it… strong, beautiful and unafraid. Take a step into your storm, the clouds will eventually blow away and seas will calm, the sun will shine only for you, it’s then that you will truly enjoy your journey.
Smudging is one of my favourite techniques for cleansing crystals. The word itself does not sound all that encouraging when you envision yourself working with natures gems, but don’t be deterred by the name, its a beautiful calming ceremony.
What is smudging?
‘Smudging’ is a powerful cleansing technique that comes from Native American tradition. It is when herbs are burned for spiritual, psychic and healing purification. It is used in ceremonies to cleanse people, places and objects from negative energies.
What do I smudge with?
There are a variety of herbs that can be used to smudge your crystals, home or yourself. The most common are White Sage and Sweet Grass I also use Yerba Santa. The herbs are tied into a bundle and allowed to dry, this is then called a ‘smudge stick’. These are sacred herbs and are used in sacred rituals and therefore are treated with great respect.
What do I need to smudge?
- Smudge Stick.
- Candle and match.
- Large shell, preferably an Abalone Shell.
How do I Smudge my Crystals?
Light your smudge stick from the candle (please be careful not to burn yourself or your property) and gently fan your feather over the smouldering end of your smudge stick. Your intention and belief should be carefully considered to help clear the energy of the crystals to be smudged. Gently pass your crystals through the smoke or alternatively brush the smoke with the feather over the crystals a number of times.
How do I smudge myself?
As above light your smudge stick from your candle, again with great care. Fan with the feather until it begins to smoulder, place the smudge stick in the shell on the ground.
Step through the smoke leading with your right foot, then pick up the shell and using your feather gently waft the smoke toward your body while moving it upwards from the ground.
Keep your thoughts positive, try to picture the sacred smoke cleansing your body and aura of all negative energies.
Always consider your intentions before you smudge and hold it clearly in your mind. Smudging should always be done with reverence and in a complete attitude of love.
Smudging is a truly beautiful and sacred ceremony.
Good Weather Friends
When the sun shines and life is good out they come.
They tend to orbit around people that have gained some good fortune, whether its financial or just good old confidence. Leeching on you before you know it, but beware, when life turns sour they disappear like a snowman in a heat wave.
Partner In Crime Friends
Lets just say when it calls for a little bit of skulduggery they will be right beside you.
When you fall they wont pick you up…..in fact, they will fall around hysterically and shout you a shot of tequila to help heal your bloodied knees.
NEVER watch Titanic or Bambi with these weeping wonders of nature. If you do find yourself in the above position then in all that’s holy bring the Kleenex.
Do not believe them under any circumstance when they say ‘I wont cry this time’. Its a ruse, they cried the other thirty-six times, number thirty-seven wont be any different.
These are the friends to bring to dinner parties ran by members of Mensa.
Average IQ of 160 and Doctorates laying between them like potholes on an Irish road. This friend wont let you down when asked about the ‘philosophy of existentialism’.
You will take their queue and nod or shake your head in a knowing way……thus through your friend your intellectual criteria has been met, happy days!
Never on Time Friends
So your meeting for dinner at 8? Best tell this tardy individual that plans are set for 7.
You can be sure they’ll still be late but, at least this way it may only be by half an hour and your hunger pains wont have really kicked in.
So at least your dinner has started (after above friend has arrived), you’ve ordered and your mouth is calling for its taste buds to be satisfied, the starters arrive and BOOM! ‘That’s not what I ordered!!’ resonates from your left hand side, the table is thrown into disrepair as the waitress attempts to rectify the situation.
There is a positive side, their skill for complaining is so vast that a lovely bottle of white wine is thrown in for free……bonus!!!
Relationship Expert Friends
Restore the love in your relationship!!
No matter how good or bad your love life is this singleton will always know better, possibly for better or worse but their intentions are always putting you first.
Does it actually matter which of the above applies to who you surround yourself with?
There is a singular word that repeats itself ‘ Friend’.
If you are lucky enough to have an abundance of friends and laugh at whom is who and which category they lie in then you are rich. If you have a friend that all categories apply to then hold on to them, they are a rarity.
If you are reading this and know you have these people in your life then that also means that you my friend are also a true friend.
…..driving along in my little vehicle on this gorgeous day, front windows down air gushing through…heaven you would think….you would be wrong.
A large brown object flies through the open window at speed!!!!!
Startled as I am, I manage to manoeuvre to a screeching stop (due to my friggin awesome driving skills).
Admittedly I screamed on a constant and so loud the sound barrier was broken and locals were deafened.
Leaping out of my car I hit the ground running still screaming, until I see it….it’s big…it’s huge….it’s a leaf, yes a bloody leaf.
I unceremoniously grab this kamikaze freak of nature and say a few choice words as I remove it from my vehicle.
At this point I gain my composure, only to realise I have an audience, a lovely little family out for a stroll.
Me!! All I could say was ‘ bloody leaf scared the shite out of me’.
I at this point remove myself from their company.
All in all its been a day of learning